at the end of that year, she moved to birmingham, alabama, to work at an inner city african-american church. i moved to nagasaki, japan, to teach english. our entire courtship, we were apart. it was by letters. so when we actually got married, it was like we knew we were in love with each other and we felt god put us together. but it was like, and who are you? and my wife and i are the exact opposite in every detail of our dna except our commitment to each other and the lord. the thing that made us last, we said divorce is not an option for us. we're going to make this thing work if it kills us. and there were times it nearly did. at one point, i ended up in the hospital from depression over our marriage problems. kay thought she was having a nervous breakdown. and we went to a counselor. at that time, i was working at a college and i was making $800 a month and my counseling bill was $100 a week. we wracked up a $1,500 counseling bill. was it worth it? are you kidding me? she's my best friend. i often thought i should do a commercial called mastercard -- priceless. saved my marriage